I never thought I’ll continue talking about the ‘M’ word in another post, but I just saw an article about it being shared in one of the Facebook groups.
I’ve never had to deal with the ‘M’ word (God forbid I ever do…), so I really can’t share the feeling of the experience. But no doubt, it is one of those situations which probably stings like hell. An unborn child (even if it’s just a couple of cells and not even fully formed) is still a person and to lose someone is absolutely devastating. I don’t have much to say on how to get over such situations but if I have to, I’ll say just allow yourself some time to properly grieve then move on. If it makes you feel better to talk to someone about it, do it. Don’t ever feel like it’s the end of the road for you or that you’re all alone.
After saying the above, you should at least be a little aware of how it feels for someone going through a loss. So please, think before you speak when talking to someone who is going through a miscarriage. It might seem like a harmless statement, but it can hurt the other person a lot. It’s the same like for someone who is trying hard to conceive and along comes (nosey) relatives/friends asking the harmless question of “when are you going to have kids?” The question itself is harmless, but it is sad and frustrating for the person at the receiving end.
Here’s the article shared on: 5 Things NOT to Say to Someone Who Had a Miscarriage
Sometimes, actions speak louder than words. Give your friend a hug to let your friend know that you’re there with her. I’m sure the hug can convey a lot more than if you were to say it in words.